NPR had novelist and The New Yorker cartoonist Adrian Tomine on their series “In Your Ear” to talk about his favorite musical moments from his wedding, as illustrated in his book Scenes from an Impending Marriage, in which he shares his own wedding planning. NPR and The New Yorker? Gee, that sounds like a homework assignment party. Unless you are a die-hard fan of either (I am not), you might not care know who Tomine is, but if you’re planning a wedding and trying to pick music with your stubborn loving spouse—his musings on music picking might pertain to you.

In this blogger’s opinion, Tomine misplayed the game of “do/do not play” which is how he somehow found himself squabbling with the DJ before the wedding about Bob Seger’s “Old Time Rock n’ Roll.” Because the DJ saw a lot of music from the 50’s and 60’s he “made the mental leap” to play Seger’s Classic hit. Tomine apparently did not make it clear to the DJ that he REALLY didn't want the song played at the wedding, and found himself hearing it on his wedding day.

Big misstep here: not clearly outlining the “do not” plays. Although we're generally in favor of keeping the Do Not Play list short, if there’s any chance that you’re going to flip over a song (bad memory, too cheesy for words, etc.), put it on the list. This can also prevent drunk sporadic song requests from drunk enthusiastic guests. Personally, I can’t get enough Bob Seger and think Tomine should stick to cartooning.

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